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Two Steps Forward, One Step Back

The phrase "Two Steps Forward, One Step Back" currently describes how I feel about my life. I feel like every time I make a little bit of progress, something (usually my brain) takes me back, just a little. This epiphany struck me yesterday during my workout. As I punched and kicked my calories away, I glanced into the mirror and was horrified by how "thick" I looked. Naturally, that leads down a rabbit hole of comparison and self-loathing. I have never felt comfortable in my own skin. In middle and high school I used to wish I was "thicker" and would pretend to diet. I took my first steps on my university campus just under 110 pounds (5'4"). I remember this because there was a woman in front of the blood mobile asking passersby to donate. When I walked past, she simply looked me up and down and smiled.

Nearly ten years and 40 pounds later, I stood in the middle of the class wishing my stomach was flatter, my D cups would shrink, and my legs didn't resemble tree trunks. I know what you might be thinking, "this girl doesn't have IBS, she has an eating disorder." But I will stop you there. I do not have an eating disorder. I know this because my mother struggled with anorexia every day from the age of 12 until a few months before her death when cancer made her realize you could be "too thin." I grew up in the worlds of gymnastic and dance so my mom was insistent on teaching me about eating disorders. No, what I have is the same thing most of us suffer from, negative body-image.

In my head, I know everything I need to do to lose weight and change my thinking. I know it like I know I need to take vitamins every day for my deficiencies, focus on my Kegels daily to prevent complications during a future pregnancy, complete daily physical therapy exercises so my knee can heal, and put powder on my external yeast infection each morning and night. I know all of these things and yet... Let me just say I am lucky if one of them is completed weekly or even monthly. This challenge has inspired me to cut sugar and work out, however, I still say yes to free pizza in the break room and the bag of Cheetos in my "period snack stash." So, for every two steps I take toward healthy living with sugarless eating and working out, I keep taking steps back by forgoing the little things and eating unhealthy savory foods. However, every step forward does count. I just cannot forget about the steps back.

Here is what I ate today:

Breakfast: protein pancakes
Morning Snack: cherries
Lunch: Dominoes Pizza and cherries
Dinner: Greenwise frozen pizza

I know that a large cause for my current steps back is related to stress. Hopefully having you listen to my feelings will help reduce that.

Over and Out,
The Girl with IBS

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